Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

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Psychological therapy videos from Dr Becky Spelman and her team of Psychologists, Psychiatrists and Psychotherapists at Private Therapy Clinic UK, Ireland & video call appointments worldwide. Our videos cover topics such as anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, addiction, and much more.

Dr. Becky Spelman has a particular interest in personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder, narcissism and dissociative identity disorder.

Ask us any question and we'll try to make a video on it. The more subscribers we get the more videos we'll make.

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Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

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Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

Party season has arrived.
But for many people, it’s not really about the party.

Psychologically, this time of year activates something deeper:
our need to belong, to be seen, to feel connected and sometimes to escape how we’ve actually been feeling.

For some, party season is joy, laughter, music, and reunion.
For others, it’s pressure. Comparison. Social exhaustion. Or the subtle fear of being left out.

And here’s the part we don’t talk about enough
Many people don’t go out because they’re excited
they go out because staying in feels like being forgotten.

Psychology calls this social signalling and belonging threat when being visible feels safer than being authentic.
So we say yes when we’re tired.
We drink more than we planned.
We smile while feeling disconnected.

And yet…
some of the most regulated people aren’t at every party.
They’re the ones who know when connection nourishes them and when it drains them.

This season isn’t asking you to be everywhere.
It’s asking you to notice why you’re going.

Because real confidence isn’t being the most social person in the room
it’s being okay with your own company when the music stops.

This post is based on psychological research into belonging, social comparison, emotional regulation, and attachment.

#psychology #partyseason #mentalhealth #selfawareness

1 month ago | [YT] | 15

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

Do you think men should pay on a 1st date?

2 months ago | [YT] | 6

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

New interview:

I'm a Sociopath with Autism | Anti-social personality disorder (ASPD) and autism.
https://youtu.be/pXctMG4WBPQ

1 year ago | [YT] | 3

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

Watch the latest life story interview with ‪@KyleeRackam‬ who is a diagnosed narcissist with BPD. Kylee’s interview is an honest account of the disorder which challenges a lot of misconceptions
https://youtu.be/lBtKmnUIk4I

1 year ago | [YT] | 2

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

New video about how mushrooms can deduced alcohol consumption (personal journey) #psilocybin #alcohol

2 years ago | [YT] | 6

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

Why we try so hard to protect our ego #defensemechanisms

2 years ago | [YT] | 5

Dr. Becky Spelman | The Human Pattern

Detailed video by a fully registered psychologist about anxious attachment.

2 years ago | [YT] | 3