The Connected Self

Growth rarely happens under pressure.

Most of us were taught that change comes through striving, intensity, or self-criticism. But real transformation tends to unfold in steadines... in patience, in honesty, and in grace that makes room for the unfinished parts of us.

“Grace Has Room” is a song about that kind of growth. Not rushed. Not forced. Just faithful over time.

🎵 Listen here:
https://youtu.be/RTQFE_3JWyo

If this song meets you in the middle of becoming, you’re welcome to leave a word below. There is room for where you are... and for who you are still becoming.

3 days ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Fear often feels spiritual.
But it is also neurological.

The brain is designed to repeat what feels protective, even when the danger is no longer present. Over time, those fear pathways can begin to feel automatic...like they define you.

This video explores how fear wiring forms, why it persists, and how renewal involves both intentional attention and the transforming work of God. Spiritual growth does not bypass the brain. It reshapes it.

👉 Watch here:
https://youtu.be/9HWME6MT4h0

If this helps you see fear differently... not as failure, but as learned protection... you’re welcome to share a thought below. Understanding is often the beginning of renewal.

4 days ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Many of us learned to love by merging - by anticipating, adjusting, and disappearing a little to keep connection intact.

“Where You End and I Begin” is a song about learning a different way. A way where love includes clarity, boundaries, and presence and not self-erasure.

🎵 Listen here:
https://youtu.be/M_k24_OWvg8

If this song names something you’re learning or unlearning, you’re welcome to leave a word below. Healthy love has edges and those edges make real connection possible.

1 week ago | [YT] | 0

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Many people lose themselves in relationships not because they are weak or needy, but because they learned early that connection required sacrifice of self.

This video explores how codependent patterns form, why they feel morally confusing for Christians, and how Jesus models a form of love that does not erase identity in order to maintain closeness.

👉 Watch “Stop Losing Yourself in Relationships | A Christian Perspective on Codependence and Healthy Love” here:
https://youtu.be/h8zRcYS5fNU

If this names something familiar, you’re welcome to share a thought below. Healthy love doesn’t require disappearance - and it never asks you to abandon the self God created.

1 week ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Some children learned early that being quiet, undemanding, or invisible was the safest way to stay connected.

“Child Inside the Silence” is a song for those parts of u... the ones shaped by emotional neglect, not through harm that was loud, but through what was missing.

This song isn’t about blame. It’s about presence. About noticing what learned to go without and allowing gentleness to return.

🎵 Listen here:
https://youtu.be/W6MMQqqv09g

If this meets something tender in you, you’re welcome to leave a word below. Even quiet parts deserve to be heard.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Pressure and peace feel very different in the body and in the soul.

Pressure rushes, constricts, and demands.
Peace steadies, clarifies, and orients.

This song explores that difference - not as a technique, but as a way of noticing what’s actually guiding us.

https://youtu.be/J-Fv1TMh93o

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Faith was never meant to feel like constant pressure.
When it does, something important has usually been confused... often direction has been replaced with demand.

Pressure pushes behavior.
Faith is meant to form a life.

This video looks at how faith can become burdensome, and how recovering its orienting purpose changes the experience of following Christ.

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

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Sometimes staying in the same place isn’t about failure.
It’s about patterns that haven’t been noticed yet.

This song reflects on what keeps repeating beneath the surface... not to judge it, but to understand what’s been shaping direction over time.

Attention often comes before movement.

https://youtu.be/n23R8CT6sgE

4 weeks ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Why You Keep Repeating the Same Emotional Patterns

Most people don’t repeat emotional patterns because they aren’t trying hard enough.

They repeat them because their brain learned, a long time ago, what felt familiar, what reduced danger, and what kept connection intact... even if it came at a cost.

This video explores why insight alone doesn’t break patterns, how the nervous system drives repetition, and what actually supports change over time.

👉 Watch “Why You Keep Repeating the Same Emotional Patterns” here:
https://youtu.be/8tjYqk5VwsA

If this connects to something you’ve noticed in yourself, you’re welcome to share a thought below. Awareness is not weakness... it’s the beginning of choice.

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

The Connected Self

Patterns don’t form overnight.
They take shape through repetition... through what the heart returns to under pressure, habit, and hope.

This song reflects on how those patterns develop, and why noticing them matters. Not to judge them, but to understand what they’ve been shaping in us over time.

Change begins with attention.

https://youtu.be/SPsbl1S0MSg

1 month ago | [YT] | 0