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Hey Sis, hey! I'm Grace Sandra; a single Mama of 3, Writer & Activist/Advocate.
On my channel, unfiltered Black womanhood meets storytelling, culture, activism & the fight to stay human in a world that forgets our humanity. This is a safe space for Black women to be centered + cherished.
I’ll be diving into news, our nervous system, and the narratives that shape our lives — from personal survival stories to social commentary, media analysis, and the messy truth of becoming. I love to share my personal stories, my lived experience & training to make sense of what’s happening around us and within us. It’s documentary-style storytelling with a cultural lens and a survivor’s heart. ❤️🩹
Everything I do is for the Black girls who weren’t supposed to make it, the ones trying to reassemble themselves & wanna understand & heal the world through a sharper, more honest lens.
Hit subscribe and come survive — and thrive — with me. Welcome to the fam!
OUT HERE TRYNA SURVIVE
✨In today’s new Valentines episode I wanna tell ya a little story about having to leave a toxic work situation due to verbal abuse & the ensuing panic attacks. And… if you’re curious this helps explain my recent need to ask for help publicly.
This situation escalated to the point that my hands were involuntary shaking, chest pains came back & I wasn’t sleeping due to ruminating + looping thoughts. My CPSTD was triggered. But… I was prepared to push past it. When you need the bread, you need the bread.
My nervous system said no. In fact, its exact words were “hell to the naw, naw, naw, naw.”
For most of my life, I’ve have learned how to endure toxic &/or narcissistic men like I’m tryna win a gold medal. Particularly in marriages & Church/ministry spaces, hell even with a therapist once. 🤦🏽♀️
There are so many times women are told & even socialized to “just be patient” and “push through” dealing with highly toxic men.
But yeah, no. After surviving my ex, I can’t do it… get somebody else to do it.
Even in a time of extreme financial need something shifted in me & I realized I am no longer willing to survive by sacrificing myself to narcissistic booty holes. So I walked away. And yes, it was a risk. But I was also stressing my allready fragile mental health into a direction I knew intuitively I could not sustain.
In this week’s episode of the Out Here Tryna Survive podcast, I share:
• What verbal abuse in the workplace actually looks like
• How narcissistic behavior hides behind “professionalism”
• What panic attacks taught me
• Why I’m decentering toxic men for good (no matter what the context & workplace toxicity was the final straw)
• And why this is the start of Season 2: The Survival Diaries
This episode feels like a but of rebirth for me.
If you’ve ever worked in a toxic environment…
If you’ve ever questioned whether you were “too sensitive”…
If you’ve ever stayed because you needed the money…
This one is for YOU.
Have you ever stayed somewhere that was harming you because you felt like you had no choice?
The #OutHereTrynaSurvive podcast is available everywhere you listen to podcasts or you can watch on YouTube.
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✨new episode✨ Ever had to leave a toxic workplace situation?
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In episode 40, I’m talmbout how what we’re experiencing in America is so similar to going through Narcissistic abuse. From the gaslighting to the trauma bonds….
https://youtu.be/bCZw8qLi3xk?si=xT0d6...
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Hey y’all! ✨new episode up!
On January 7, 2026, Renee Good was shot and killed by ICE… and then they tried to finish the job with a label: “domestic terrorist.”
This episode is about that pattern Black women know too well:
harm → headline → smear → “see, this is why we need more force.”
I’m talking narrative control, DARVO, why so many of us aren’t shocked and what we actually do with all this without letting doomscrolling wreck our nervous systems.
Because we can stay informed without being consumed.
And we can care without carrying the whole country on our backs.
🎧 Watch/listen here:
https://youtu.be/ztdUkQZyCFI
💬 Question for you: What’s your role right now? rest, protest, donate, organize, parent, create, protect your peace?
#OutHereTrynaSurvive #BlackWomen #CommunityCare #NervousSystem #MediaLiteracy
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Beauty isn’t a forcefield & the Scott’s’ viral divorce proves it! In this ✨new✨ episode, I’m talmbout parasocial grief, religious pressure, and the myths about “perfect couples” that keep us stuck. I’m sharing my own story with this as well as my own messy as hell divorce!
Why this Viral Divorce Hits So Hard. Desmond, Religion, & Agency.
https://youtu.be/Bb-Pn5ZHpak
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Did y’all grow up in “purity culture?” Struggle with guilt &/or shame around sexuality? Feel shame about celibacy or heauxdome? This Epi is for YOU! 😘
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Here’s 6 questions to ask yourself to reflect on 2025! Here’s a few lessons that I took away from 2025!
Happy to have yall be a part of my 2025! 🎉🎊🎁🍾
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I know this day can be soooo debilitating for so many of us… it is ALWAYS hard for me to some extent. I hope & pray yall had a peace-filled Christmas! 🎅🏿
Much Love,
grace
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👩🏽🎓Mastered it! 🎓 (Masters of Global Communications)
My son Rhys took these pics yesterday on WMU’s campus, primarily for scenery because my degree is actually from #ArizonaStateUniversity 🙌🏽
He did such a great job 👏🏽 My little junior photographer 🫶🏽
3 weeks until I’m done & a month before I walk… this journey has been crazy challenging to do as a single Mom of 3 in perimenopause with one in college (at WMU 🤪🙃)
I was tempted to stop 3 times but I’m so glad I betted on myself & flatly refused to give up; proving it’s NEVER too late for any of us.
I’m proud of myself. Seriously. 🥹🥹🥹
#OutHereTrynaSurviveMyMasters #OutHereTrynaSurvive #GraceSandra #MasteredIt #MastersDegree #thisis48
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✨British Vogue recently released an article called: Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing? I found it fascinating as a Gen-X’er who was raised to WANT/NEED a bf/husband for validation as a human! Let’s discuss the generational differences at play in my newest podcast episode 34!
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